Monte Cook's "perfect player" article is in the October 2004 issue of
Dungeon magazine (#115). You should be able to get back issues from
www.paizopublishing.com
To paraphrase, the perfect player...
*
pays attention
* is interested in the DM's world
*
is familiar with the rules, but lets the DM have the final say
* helps other players but doesn't boss them around
*
doesn't try to force his style of play on others
* doesn't hog the limelight
* doesn't bring the game to a standstill by not knowing what his character wants to do
* doesn't wander away from the table mid-game
* doesn't forget stuff at home or have to keep borrowing stuff (books, dice)
* respects the game location (i.e., is a good houseguest)
I bolded the ones that I think are most important.
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Someone mentioned Monte Cook's article about table rules. That is in the December 2004 issue of
Dungeon (#117).